Bad advice, but very funny:

Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in their shoes. That way, you'll be a mile from them, and you'll have their shoes.
-Jack Handy

Here’s a key, key verse that speaks directly into my life. We’re talking a laser-like level of directness:

Psalm 37:4. Delight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.

I had a dream last night in which there were two fighting groups of Christians. We were really fighting, too, with real guns. Of course, elements of this story are ridiculous because it was a dream, but as we were shooting and dodging, a dear brother (who was from the other side) began working himself forward, closer to us, firing as he came. We kept dodging and soon he was very close. As he was lifting his gun to fire though, I beat him to it, and fired a bullet into the left side of his chest. He kept coming until another dear brother (this one on my side) put another bullet through him. As he was dying, we met and cried and I told him I loved him as a brother and he agreed, though he expressed the strangeness of the situation.

It was one of those emotional dreams, where the crying and agony and sorrow were almost real.

But maybe Christians are not that far away from fighting like that, just not with real weapons and without the loving ending.